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Building a Relationship to Last

admin — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 18:37:46 +0000

Many young people, especially young women, think that relationships work in reality like they do in the romance novels. They think that a relationship comes easily, with plenty of romance and happy endings. Soon enough after entering their first serious relationship, however, many young people realize that, in reality, relationships are not quite so simple. Here in the real world, a good relationship takes work.

There are several things that you should consider when you enter a serious relationship. If you want to build a relationship that will last throughout the ages, you will need to establish a few things early on in your relationship. One of those concepts is that a good relationship is a two way street. In other words, you cannot build a good relationship on your own. It takes two to tango.

On the same token, you and your partner must be willing to share everything in order to build a lasting relationship. When you move in together or get married, you cannot have a mindset of “my money and your money.” The thinking must be toward “our money.” Likewise, you should share in each others hobbies, interests, and families. Without this sharing of your lives, you have no chance of building a lasting relationship.

Another concept that you and your partner should grasp is that a good relationship is based on two basic principles—communication and trust. Where there is no trust, there can not be a good relationship. If you cannot trust your partner for good reasons, such as prior cases of cheating, you are setting yourself up for a hard fall. On the other hand, when your relationship is based on trust and understanding you will be more likely to build a relationship that lasts.

Communication is a huge part of building this trust. When you do not communicate your feelings to your partner, he or she does not know that they have hurt you, upset you, or caused harm to your relationship in any way. The only way that any issue can be resolved, whether big or small, is to communicate. When communication in a relationship is poor, minor issues can accumulate and build until there is no hope left of reconciliation.

One of the main points in relationship management is to never leave each other angry. This holds true for very level of a relationship. Whether you are leaving to go to your own homes or you are simply going to bed, do not leave things in a bad place. Always communicate calmly, share your feelings, and do your best to resolve any issues before the end of the day. By following this and the other advice found here, you can build a foundation for a good and lasting relationship.

How To Keep A Relationship Alive

admin — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 18:31:15 +0000

Do you feel your relationship is not what it used to be? The initial magic and the same spirit is lacking? Well most relationships go through a dry patch. Like they say variety is the spice of life the same way you need to bring more variety into your relationship.

Learn to make an extra effort - This is the major reason why most relationships fail. None of the partners make an effort to do something for each other. A flower blooms as long as you provide it with proper care, water and sunlight. Similarly you need to do tackle your spouse like a flower. Constant love support and appreciation is required to keep the relationship alive and healthy.

Learn to compromise and sacrifice - The moment you get into a relationship you should realize one fact that it’s not going to be like single life. You would have to make some commitments and compromises. Therefore learn to shed your ego sometimes and compromise for the good.

Respect each other - Nothing can make a relationship stronger than a healthy respect for your spouse. Not only does it keep the relationship strong but also makes your spouse feel worthy and an important part of the relationship.

Appreciate - What happens when you get appreciation for your work from someone? It’s obvious that you would want to do more. Same way learn to appreciate your spouse for small favors. Small thank yous strengthens the bond and makes your partner feel more wanted and loved.

Learn to adapt - We all have bad habits therefore getting angry due to small bad habits of your partner can further worsen your situation. It’s always good to learn to adapt and get used to such habits. Just don’t question things let them be the way they are.

In the present day and century people change partners like clothes. But one thing you need to realize is at the end of the day you need someone who would care for you and would be there for you always. You just don’t need company but a loving partner who understands you for what you are.

How to Avoid the Dangers of Internet Dating

admin — Wed, 06 Jun 2007 08:03:08 +0000

There are certain personal information some people often lie about within their profile. The most often include: there height, weight, age and the type of work they do. You should always be mindful of what other say about themselves. For instance, they might over exaggerate their life experience, income, education, etc…

Even the pictures they provide can not be trusted. Many people use older photographs of themselves because they looked much better back then. Most crucial, be mindful that people lie about their relationship status. Married people have been known to state that they’re single on their profile.

Most internet dating websites let you use an alias on your personal profile. Make sure you take full advantage of this. When you do begin to feel comfy with somebody and wish to share your electronic mail address with them, do not use your primary e-mail address. Sign up a free e-mail address that you use strictly for your internet dating activities. You could easily obtain one from yahoo, hotmail, gmail, and others. (more…)

The 60-Day Relationship Review

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 23:01:13 +0000

Most companies require new employees to undergo a 30, 60, and/or 90-day review to discuss how they are doing at their job. Typically part of the discussion is how well the employee thinks s/he is doing and what s/he likes and doesn’t like about the job. The boss then shares how she thinks the employee is doing, what is working and what needs improvement.

I think relationships should have a 60-day (or 90-day) relationship review. This way both parties could get a reality check on how s/he sees the relationship in comparison to the other. Both people could answer the questions, first on paper, then sharing their answers with the other. Some sample questions could be: (more…)

The Scent of Love

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 23:00:22 +0000

A friend of mine is convinced that smell has a lot to do with dating attraction. He believes people exude a human pheromone of sorts, functioning as an attractant of the opposite sex. But since pheromone receptors have not yet been found in humans, what scent does attract us? (more…)

Do You Feel PHAT on a Date?

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:59:29 +0000

No, I’m not asking if you are fat. Although many midlife women are concerned about extra pounds that have accumulated through childbirth, enjoying life, heredity, and slowing metabolism. I find it interesting that most of the overweight men I’ve gone out with don’t consider themselves overweight, but near-normal-weight women often consider themselves fat.

I’m talking about PHAT: Pretty, Hot And Thick. This term has become popular with the under-30 crowd to describe curvaceous, voluptuous, Rubenesque, plump, plus-size women with a saucy attitude. (more…)

Being in Step with the Dance of Dating

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:58:49 +0000

A date and I met some gal pals and their hubbies at a zydeco dance club. If you’re unfamiliar with this term, the music originated in southern Louisiana. Like most dances, there is a basic step, then embellishments as you get more comfortable.

None of us knew the steps so we arrived early for the lessons. Dancing alone to the calls of the instructor, the steps seemed easy — almost ridiculously so. We spent 30 minutes going over the basic steps and some easy variations. (more…)

Are You Enjoying the Banquet of Dating?

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:57:57 +0000

My friend, world class photojournalist, author, former National Geographic photographer and Academy Award-nominated director Dewitt Jones is also an entrancing speaker. His presentations are illustrated with his riveting photos as he makes his points on creativity, leadership, vision and passion.

In a presentation I heard over 15 years ago, one of his phrases still reverberates: “The banquet is laid, though nobody comes.*” When I recently asked about him about it, he said, “I use it to refer to the banquet nature/God sets before us everyday.” Yet, as he points out, we are often too stuck in whatever is in front of us to step back, look around, and see the bounty of beauty before us. (more…)

The Dangers of Idealization

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:57:06 +0000

On a third date, a guy and I were sharing how well we both felt we got along and how well matched we seemed to be. He surprised me when he said, “Don’t idealize me.” I hadn’t been. I was clear on his imperfections, yet was enjoying the parts that I liked.

It can be easy to idealize someone after a few dates if he seems to fit your perfect-guy criteria. About another man I wrote in my journal, “There were no red flags —- is that a red flag that he has no immediately detectable flaws?” (more…)

When Your Guy Vexes You, Ask What Your Highest Self Would Do

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:56:21 +0000

When the guy you’re dating does something that really torques your jaw, something you consider incredibly rude, self-centered, or insensitive, it’s easy to get in his face about it. But if most of the time he’s a thoughtful, polite, sharing, caring, conscious guy, this inconsiderate behavior is an anomaly.

So how do you approach the situation with love and maturity, yet let your feelings be known? This concept is not easy to apply when you are in the heat of anger, but when you do the outcome is amazing. (more…)

Sharing Your Sexual Owner’s Manual with Him

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:53:15 +0000

Have you ever driven a car that seems very foreign to you? I remember driving a friend’s Italian sports car that had five gears when I was used to four. The dashboard had a unfamiliar layout. And everything was labeled in Italian!

Or maybe you’re a Mac gal and every once in a great while you have to work on a PC (or a PC gal working on a Mac). You know the results you want to create, but you have to really focus to figure out how to open the applications you want. And the keyboard has a different layout than you’re used to. While you know you can achieve what you want, it just takes a little longer as the keys and shortcuts you’re used to aren’t easily apparent. (more…)

Types Of Online Dating Sites

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:53:14 +0000

There are thousands of dating sites on the internet today. These personals sites can offer dating possibilities to all singles or they may specialize and offer their service to only a certain type of single. More dating services have tried to evolved into a niche market since competition has become very fearless in the last few years. The smaller dating sites just can’t compete with the advertising dollars that the large services spend.

The major categories that online dating sites specialize in are: (more…)

Learning Seduction - Finding “Targets”

admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 04:25:38 +0000

This may seem like an elementary statement but…You have to go where the women are! Too many guys cheat themselves out of meeting great women because they avoid the venues where they hang out. They go to sports bars over coffee shops, take golf lessons over Latin dance lessons, go to hardcore gyms over health clubs, they avoid malls, etc.

Get over the idea that an activity or place is “GAY”. Yoga may not be the manliest of sports, but it’s great cardio-vascular exercise and the classes are usually 28 women and 2 guys. Aerobics classes may look gay to you, but you’ll be in a room with mostly young women, all clad in spandex and doing stretches we can only pray to see in a strip club. Why not get involved with one of these activities instead of getting your cardio in on a boring treadmill or Stairmaster? (more…)

Secrets In Dating Women

admin — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 23:55:24 +0000

Dating is really a difficult game. It may seem pretty simple when you think about it. You ask someone that you like. You go to a restaurant. You order and you eat. You make conversation. It all seems like a breeze but it’s not. Asking someone out can be really hard for people especially for men who are easily intimidated, those with self-esteem issues and those who are just plain inexperienced with dating women. (more…)

Top 10 Internet Dating Profile Mistakes

admin — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 23:52:59 +0000

These days Internet dating is huge. If you’re serious about finding The One and are NOT using internet dating, you’re missing out on one of the most powerful ways to meet potential mates. But as with everything, there is a right and a wrong way to create an outstanding profile. With a great description, you’ll open up a world of possibilities and draw interesting, attractive prospects. With the wrong one, you’ll send people running for the hills even if you really are Ms. or Mr. Wonderful. Or worse yet, you’ll be attracting the wrong type of suitors.

Unfortunately, in a vast sea of profiles, making one blunder can mean the difference between no dates and lots of dates! So whether you’re new to Internet dating and not sure how to get started or you’ve been online but aren’t getting the response you deserve, read on to learn the most common profile mistakes. Armed with this information, you can craft a profile that will get you noticed! (more…)